Monday, March 7, 2011

asking the question "why"

I can't believe I am having to write this post. Not in my wildest dreams did I think this would happen to us....I think I am still in a state of shock and disbelief.

On Feb 1st we got the call....we where ecstatic...everything seemed perfect....4 days later we met our birth mother and her family at their house...we thought we would be there for about 1.5 hours at the most...3 hours later we were leaving hugging each other feeling very confident about this whole situation.

Over the next couple days "S" our BM as well as her mother and I had exchanged emails....we sent some pics of our new house, they sent info on the most recent DRs. appt......the baby was to be born on Thurs Feb 10th...
...the night before I called S to chat with her, give her our love....we talked for an hour....getting to know each other...she said she was nervous but everything would be okay....she said her Mom would call us as soon as the baby was born.......
....at 9:27 Thurs Feb 10th we were sent a beautiful picture of Brynley....she was perfect...our daughter was perfect....

and so the story continues, we went to the hospital and spent some more time with S and her family and of course finally got to meet Brynley....it was emotional but wonderful.....because our ministry approval was not in yet and there was a test the BF wanted done, Brynley was to stay in Foster Care for a week at the most....S and her family didn't love that idea, but we promised them that we would stay in a hotel and spend everyday with B....and we did.......one week turned into 2....then the BF started waivering in his decision........something that came out of left-field....no one expected it....a complete 180........the agency was feeling uncomfortable....we were in shock and S was freaking out!!

2 weeks became 3, with us still spending everyday with B.....finally it seemed that he was on board....openness agreements were being drawn up and then in one split second he turned and decided he was fighting S for sole custody of Brynley.....that was it.......B had to moved from the Foster Home to S's parents house where she lives.....everyone was in complete shock....no one was prepared for this....most of all S.....they had nothing.......they were still determined that their adoption plan was going to work.....they could convince him.....so here we are 5 days later....we have spent time at S's parents house, actually giving them all of the things we had borrowed or bought for Brynley. They would love us to be there all the time with Brynley but know why that might not be healthy seeing the situation........they have tried to reason with the BF but he seems to be very convinced that this is what he has to do........they will all now be communicating through lawyers........

where does this leave us.....who knows....all I know is it leaves us asking the question "why"...with broken hearts...

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