Monday, December 27, 2010

4 days!

Only 4 days left....thank goodness....I can not wait to kiss 2010 goodbye, farewell....adios.....its been less than a blast, so see ya later........ughhhghhghghg I have NEVER EVER wanted something to be done as much as this year.........not sure what I think is going to happen when I wake up on Jan 1st, what I know for sure is that it will be brighter, fresh....a new beginning....and man we are ready....we are going to look 2011 straight in the eye and say....."this is our year dammit"....BRING IT ON!

"The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrow."
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Sunday, December 26, 2010

No Tears!

So here we are 10 to 10 on Boxing Day Eve....and I am proud to say that I have not had a to be honest there where a few little tears last night but surprisingly they had nothing to do with adoption or babies or anything of the sort...surprise surprise........I feel good I feel really really proud that I made it through these few days without having a really bad moment.....

The best part of all of this is it wasn't a chore.....I feel like we have had a great Christmas...celebrating what is truly important.....not dwelling on the sad or the negative or what we wish we had, but being truly thankful and grateful for what we do have.....the amazing family and friends that support us through all of our trials and tribulations....all of our ups and downs.....they celebrate with us when something positive happens and console us when we have a down moment....this is what we celebrated this Christmas Season.....

For me this Christmas was a success....I made it through! I can't end this without saying that I hope and pray next Christmas will be different...I hope that we can feel the joy of having a baby join our family.....but one never long as we have each other I know we will be OK!

Saturday, December 18, 2010

closure......its a good thing!

Last night I came across some information, information that I wasn't sure I would ever want but here it was for me to take...and I think in the end it was a good thing that I saw this, last night I realized more then ever before that things really do turn out just the way they are supposed to!!

What I found out yesterday was that "N" (if you are just tuning in to this blog "N" is the woman that we were matched with this summer....the woman that we came to trust and get to know...the woman that changed her mind....the woman that truly didn't know any other way of doing what she did)...we have always been OK with what happened this summer, truly believing that she knew no other way.....that things turn out as they should...even though our hearts where broken we really did see her side of things! In saying that though I always hoped and prayed for her, that things turned out as she hoped....that her partner would stick around...that her other children would love him and he them.....I hoped for her that all her dreams for the future for her family would come true.

Last night I found out that so far so looks like things are going so well for seems that that family unit she was so wanting more then anything else in the world has finally happened.....her sweet little baby is of course gorgeous...adorable....but from the minute I saw him, I knew that he was not to be our child....that child is absolutely where he should be......with both of his parents....with his brothers....the love that he has surrounding him right now is became very clear to me that what happened was what was supposed to happen in this situation.....

This whole experience made me feel a huge sense of closure......even though I held no anger towards "N", I always wondered...and now I know....she is happy and so is that sweet little boy!!! I now can truly close the book on that chapter in our lives....with a smile...I may never understand why we had to have this lesson in our lives, but we are stronger and richer in spirit because of it...for that I am grateful! I am also very grateful for the brief moment I had last night...that what was meant to be was exactly what happened!!!

Sunday, December 12, 2010

here we are again....Christmas!

Well here we are again....another Christmas Season another year coming to an end. I wish that I could say that I was excited for this Christmas....I wish I had my old Christmas spirit, the girl that had her decorations up the day after Remembrance Day...the girl that planned and organized so many holiday functions it made T's head spin....the girl that jumped out of bed on Christmas morning anticipating the wonderful day filled with spirit ahead.......I'm afraid this past year has taken all the Christmas Spirit that I did have left right out of me!

I said to T last night that I feel like I am on my hands and knees slowly inching my way to the 2010 finish line...not quite sure if have the energy to get there....I know slowly but surely I will...with the token smile on my face.......but inside I am feeling very broken....very tired....and very very ready for this year to be over. All of you know about our failed match this summer...what you don't know is all the other small rough patches that have occurred this year...things that I won't discuss on this blog because they affect other people but non the less these things have all contributed to a very very hard past 6 months....and I am exhausted!

I have no idea what next year will bring.....I won't say "2011 is our year, I can feel it" and I truly hope no one says that to us, because quite said that last year and the year before that.....yes this has been a rough patch as my Dad said to me a few short months ago....yes rough it has been....thankfully I can still see the positives...all the wonderful exciting things that have happened for us this year and for all of those things and people in my life I am truly truly thankful.....this is what will get me through this Season.....knowing that no matter what.....I have many things to smile about!

Sunday, October 31, 2010

the next chapter......

I truly wish I had something to say....something to open up and start this blogging thing again...something exciting, inspiring, inspirational....but I don't.

It has been awhile....I believe it has been months since I last blogged....I guess I could tell you that I needed time to heal....time to reflect on what happened this summer and move on.......but the truth is, what happened this summer still confuses me......not the fact that "N" is the mother to her beautiful baby boy...not the fact that she "changed her mind" surprisingly that doesn't confuse me at all....what confuses me is all the other events that surrounded that one particular chapter in our life.....the missed opportunities, the other couples that had different outcomes, the sadness that is still running so deep in both of our hearts......the unknown, this is what confuses me.

There truthfully is not a day that goes by that I don't get a pit so big in the depths of my stomach. It happens at different times every day....and there is never just one thing that spurs it on..........I can be driving to work and see a lady skipping with her 5 year old to catch the bus....or a client that comes in and proudly shows me the pictures of her new grand baby.....or the worst when I look at "T" and he is quickly grabbing the remote so we don't have to endure the new sweet "we are expecting" commercial one more time....whatever it is, it always catches me, and I just have to take the time to try and process that I don't have any control of this situation....I can't make things happen just because I want to....I will probably never understand why things played out the way the did....I just hope that someday all of the heartbreak for both of us will be worth it.........

And so we begin another chapter, time to turn the page......what these next few pages will bring I guess one never knows......

Sunday, September 19, 2010

keep on or move on???

So for some reason tonight, I checked my blog....I have done some writing, actually lots of writing over the last month and a half, but never just didn't feel right. However tonight for the first time, I looked, I saw that it had been Aug. 6th since I had last made a post. I would love to tell you that life is wonderful, we are great...everything is back to normal we are happy as clams....but I can't, I can not lie.......

We are fine, we really are. We are very much okay with how everything turned out with our failed match..that is not a problem. We have absolutely no anger or nasty feelings toward N or B...we both truly feel that this is the only way they knew how to handle the situation and truly hope that everything works out for them and those wonderful children...actually I wish I could communicate with N and tell her that.......

I would love to sit here and tell you how great life was, because really it is totally awesome....we are building a new house, our businesses are booming...we, (I think anyways) are better together everyday..and the first day was pretty great so everyday after that is just a huge is good....but I do think for both of us something is still missing.....for me, I want to be a Mom...but more importantly I want "T" to be a Dad...because he would be the best....seriously, I think it is actually an injustice to the world if he isn't........I can see why they might pass me by, but "T" come have to let a wonderful little being spend his or her life with him...learn from him, see how he handles things...feel and experience his love...his knowledge...his everything....

I don't know how this is all going to turn out, I do know that in the next few weeks we will have to make some decisions.....we have always said that at the 2 year mark we will have to sit down and figure this out....limbo land is not one that is fun to be will we keep on, or will we move on..........I just don't know?


Friday, August 6, 2010

Well I thought for sure by this time I would be fine..."over it", moved on......bigger and better things right?......Wrong......I hate to admit this but I think in some ways I feel worse than I did 3 weeks I have said before my job just doesn't allow things to "go away" know most people can have something happen...good or bad....let everyone close to them about it at work for a couple days and then everyone moves on............nope not me.....I am still only in the 4th week of this still everyday almost everyone brings up the sad most people are being kind and asking because they truly care....but honestly this is just getting too hard....too many people say insensitive things and I am losing it! I know they are not doing this on purpose but ughghhgh I am really really tired.........and I don't have many more fake smiles left in me......

From having to hear about how easy it was for their friends daughter to adopt children, oh and we can't forget how they know someone that waited a year and now has a beautiful baby boy.... to how they know someone that lives in a neighbouring town that just adopted last month.....HELLO people I know these people....and I know it was not easy for them not at all,... but how is telling me that they are at home happy with their children making me feel any better right now...........I'm really sorry but its not, not one bit!

I feel sick to my stomach that I feel like this still......I want to be excited about our house that we are building, I want to be passionate about my work again.....I want to jump out of bed at 6am and tumble down the stairs for my early morning workout like I have for the past 12 years of my life........but I just don't have it right now........something is this normal.... I don't know?.......I don't know anyone that has had this happen..........I feel confused I am not sure what I am supposed to feel...sometimes I feel like I should "get over it"...this was never "ours" to miss...and then the next minute I think NO, you had someone let you believe for almost 3 months that your life was going to change, that all your dreams were going to come true..and that was swiftly taken from you in one have every right to be sad or mad or whatever...........I don't know...I just don't know.........

Hopefully things will start looking a bit brighter soon...

Monday, July 19, 2010


I have to be honest, we are feeling very lost. We know that we should be feeling something but nothing seems right. Our world is off it's day we wake up, jumping out of bed with a mission on the mind...others we can barely drag ourselves out, feeling like the night passed us by with not a wink of sleep...making day to day tasks very difficult. I have always been the type of person that takes one day to regroup....take the day eat junk, drink wine...stay in bed, cry...shut everyone out, all the while knowing that the next day things will look brighter, clearer and I will carry on.

Well last week I think I did a pretty good job at pretending that was what was 7 days later I know that this is not the case. In this situation, it is hard to know what is an appropriate feeling.....we know that we are sad....and disappointed....we are not mad, but then sometimes I am and feel guilty....I am envious of others that have had an easy go...and I know that that is terrible and not right....and not me.......I know that my heart feels broken....mostly when I look at T and see his "sad eyes"...........we are not this couple, we are positive people....happy...caring.......we are not broken down this is why we are finding this very difficult.
Of course everyone says nice things...."oh better things will come", "one door closed another opens"...and I know logically all of this is true....but I think right now we will just have to let ourselves feel all that we have to.....hopefully soon, we will be able to dust ourselves off and contemplate doing this all over again....because right now this is not the case.

I really appreciate all the comments and emails that I have been getting from all of are all so so sweet....however, I know how this post sounds...yes I am having a down day..a day that I feel life isn't fair....and I know that some that read this blog will look, read this and take it all the wrong feel free to do so...but I am removing the comments to this post...because quite frankly I just don't need to hear what you think of me right this time you can read, think what you want, and carry on....

Friday, July 16, 2010

brake slamming!

So here we are know when you or someone else is driving and all of a sudden you have to slam on the brakes...whether something came out in front of you unexpectedly or the car in front of you stopped, or you thought you could make that light but then realized you better not....and then you have to use all your might to push that brake pedal down and you stop with a jolt.....all of a sudden your heart starts pumping a bit faster and knees might even be knocking a bit...and you just have to sit and regroup and figure out what the heck just happened!
That is how this feels........I feel like someone just slammed the brakes.... on our a person just stepped out in front of me that I didn't see coming.... and he is holding a sign saying "sorry Miss you actually have to turn around....I'm sorry I startled you but you are not allowed to use this road anymore you must do a u-turn and head back to where you just came from."

I know this is a very "simple" explanation but this is truly how I am feeling right head knew that I shouldn't count on anything until it happened...I didn't buy anything, I didn't let myself envision a life with a child in it to much, but it was really hard not now we must and carry on.

My life is a very public one in the town where I one of my good friends said last night "M" you are like the Angelina Jolie of Exeter....hahahah now that is a huge stretch she wasn't meaning her looks (I wish) it was the fact that everyone and I mean everyone seems to be very interested in my life.........ughghghg people I don't even know are calling other people I do know asking about what has happened....Oh I have dealt with things like this in the past.....and the great thing about it is the support I get....seriously it is unreal.....people are so kind and caring....on the flip side, it makes this whole situation DRAG on....I am only on day 3 of talking about this at work...and remember in the salon we are on a 6 week oh my I have a few more days of this I am finding a bit exhausting....but what I keep reminding myself is it is only because people are trying to support me, and truthfully people can't help themselves, they love a good juicy story...... they are all a bit of a small town girl!

I can't help but feel like I have just stepped off the set of a soap opera....when I am explaining our story to people I think... oh my.... I can't believe how that just life is fairly boring, uneventful.....but this sure did spice things up for a now, what to do....I guess it is back to hairspray and makeup and picking out cupboards and hardwood floors for our new home.....and yes you are so right..... as I know what you are all thinking, I am very lucky and have not one thing to complain life is good!

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

with a sad heart......

"Good things come to those who wait"....."never give up hope"...."all things happen for a reason"......."better things ahead", these are just a sampling of some of my favorite cliches.....irritating to hear I know, but thankfully I have experienced enough in my life to know that they are all true....."this too shall pass"....

This is a blog I hoped I would never have to write. As I am typing my heart is sad and my head is very disappointed. As you can tell by now our matched has not worked out. "N" has decided to parent her baby. Yes we are very sad but as I have always said we can absolutely understand why. This baby will have just as much love in her home as it would in ours... for that we find comfort.

What has disappointed us is the fact that someone we had come to trust has not even informed us that she has given birth yet. For some reason unknown to us "N" it seems has fallen off the face of the earth, or so she would like us to believe.......thankfully our SW has some connections that were kind enough to inform us that "N" had her baby late Sat night and went home on Sunday....she told the hospital that she had considered adoption early on, but changed her mind a few months ago....which is all very interesting because it was a few months ago that she contacted us. We are not angry, we are not mad.... we are just confused as to why in this day and age with all the technology in this, answering workers at your doorstep why you couldn't just tell us earlier and not let us think something so positively for so long.
We have to believe that she knew no other way to handle it, she felt this was all she could do. I pray that she as well as "T" and I can find peace with that.

There really isn't much more to say.....we will now regroup, try and find the lessons in all of this and move on. I do know for sure that in the end it will all make sense.

Monday, July 5, 2010

the timing will be perfect.....

So I apologize for my lack of blogging, but I really wanted to wait until I had some news.....and well I don't have the news that we are all wanting to hear.........however, we are still waiting....patiently....."N" is now very overdue, very pregnant and very HOT!!! I feel so bad for her, I just can't even imagine sometimes just takes my breath away when I think about it....all of this discomfort.....and in the end to give this most amazing, selfless gift to another actually boggles my mind. I sit and I think about it and I wonder.....would I be able to do something this big, this this the choice I would make???? I don't think any human can know what they would do until they are in a particular I hope if ever I was in "N's" position I would do the same as she is doing for us.

So we will continue to wait....things should happen soon....but you never thing I have learned in this past year is, this is so worth waiting for and if T and I are meant to be parents our special baby will come when the timing is just perfectly right!!

"But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, be patient! For it will surely take place. It will not be late by a single day."

Habakkuk 2:3

m :)

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

and the wait continues....

we are still waiting...however we are waiting a little more optimistically tonight than we have been for the past 3 weeks....when we thought all hope was gone, around 2pm today we finally had some very reassuring news.......

and I am sure it is due to all of the amazing support we have in our lives........the prayers, the positive thinking...all of it....thank-you!

Friday, June 18, 2010

no news is good news??

We are still waiting. As far as we know, no baby has arrived. I can't help but have an imagination going wild at this time.....every time I get really really down or crazed I just think about "N" and that snaps me right back to reality......if I am having a stressful time right now she is feeling stress 90 times more........I just can't imagine!

It is funny really, I think I have thought about every possible outcome.......I have got my response down pat for my clients and friends if things don't work out.......I feel prepared for whatever happens....I have had a day of anxious tears......I have had a day of gleeful anticipation and I have many days somewhere in the middle....I feel prepared to deal with whatever happens.
What I am not prepared for is what this will do to "T".........he is such a positive thinker...THANK GOODNESS....he is what gets me through those times I should be stuffed into a straight jacket and rolled away to a room with padded walls....he keeps me going......
Tonight T said to me..."guess what happened to me today....2 different guys said Happy Fathers Day to me on the phone....that has never happened before" heart did a huge flip flop....first thinking is this a sign.....will this really happen......and then I thought "oh please let this be... for him.......he is the best, kindest, most honest, he is one of those really, truly good people ...forget all the mistakes I have made and give this gift to him.".....he deserves to be a Dad...he will be the best Dad there ever was.......

Now I know what is meant to be will be........and I am truly hoping and praying and thinking positive about it all.......and I know that we will get through whatever is to happen......
All we want is the best possible life for this sweet child.......whatever, wherever that shall be!

thanks again for all your prayers and finger crossing!

Monday, June 14, 2010

sorry for all the feel good motivational posts, but it is the only thing getting me through right now....this wait is harder than I ever thought it would be...some interesting twists and turns have developed....our "story" is not an easy one to tell.......we are trying to stay positive.....due date is June 20th...hopefully by then we will have some answers......thanks to you all for your kind words, prayers and listening ears!!
"Hope inspite of hopeless circumstances,
Keep believing!
Keep praying!
Focus on the god who makes the impossible possible" .
thanks S!

Sunday, June 13, 2010

and so I will wait.........

A really good friend of mine sent me this poem a few days ago....this got her through a really tough time and so it will me!

by Russell Kelfer

Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried;
Quietly, patiently, lovingly, God replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate . . .
And then God so gently said, "Wait."

"Wait? you say wait?" my indignant reply.
"Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!
Is your hand shortened? Or have you not heard?
By faith I have asked, and I'm claiming your Word.

"My future and all to which I relate
Hangs in the balance, and you tell me to wait?
I'm needing a 'yes', a go-ahead sign,
Or even a 'no' to which I can resign.

"You promised, dear Lord, that if we believe,
We need but to ask, and we shall receive.
And Lord I've been asking, and this is my cry:
I'm weary of asking! I need a reply."

Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fate,
As God replied again, "Wait."
So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut,
And grumbled to God, "So, I'm waiting for what?"

He seemed then to kneel, and His eyes met with mine . . .
and He tenderly said, "I could give you a sign.
I could shake the heavens and darken the sun.
I could raise the dead and cause mountains to run.

"I could give all you seek and pleased you would be.
You'd have what you want, but you wouldn't know Me.
You'd not know the depth of my love for each saint.
You'd not know the power that I give to the faint.

"You'd not learn to see through clouds of despair;
You'd not learn to trust just by knowing I'm there.
You'd not know the joy of resting in Me
When darkness and silence are all you can see.

"You'd never experience the fullness of love
When the peace of My spirit descends like a dove.
You would know that I give, and I save, for a start,
But you'd not know the depth of the beat of My heart.

"The glow of my comfort late into the night,
The faith that I give when you walk without sight.
The depth that's beyond getting just what you ask
From an infinite God who makes what you have last.

"You'd never know, should your pain quickly flee,
What it means that My grace is sufficient for thee.
Yes, your dearest dreams overnight would come true,
But, oh, the loss, if you missed what I'm doing in you.

"So, be silent, my child, and in time you will see
That the greatest of gifts is to truly know me.
And though often My answers seem terribly late,
My most precious answer of all is still . . . Wait."

Thursday, June 10, 2010

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus"
philippians 4: 6-7

Sunday, June 6, 2010

cautiously optimistic...

It's been awhile, I is crazy.........we are waiting, we are moving and I am really trying to keep it all together!

We are totally in limbo land right now..........we have been matched, things seem very positive....but one never knows....every time I get butterflies in my stomach at the prospect of finally having our dreams come true....I am overwhelmed with emotion when I think of the woman that I have come to know and the decision that she is faced with at this eyes fill with tears and my excitement quickly diminishes and my thoughts are only with her and what she faces at this time!

We continue to be cautiously optimistic........and are trying to keep our faith in check....what we know for sure is.......we want this special baby to have the most perfect life...whether that is with this special woman that we have come to know or with T and I.....we pray for the best, for this child...if you have time can you pray for the same!


Monday, May 17, 2010

what I have learned!!!

10 things I have learned about myself in the past 4 weeks....

1) I am superstitious...never thought I was, like seriously I have let black cats go out in front of me my whole life...haha I am so scared of cats... whatever the colour I let them do whatever they want because, I hightail it out of there like nobodies business....mirrors....are you kidding me I am so clumsy I have broken tons of mirrors and never thought about the 7 year crisis....
I would love to tell everyone our "news" like every stinking detail...but something holds me back...I don't want to jinx anything~~

2) I am a total control freak....and this I can not control....hence another last 2 post have contained "lists" :)

3) a bag of chips really does make me feel better!

4) with a big glass of red wine.....even better!

5) even though I am 35 years of age....I am still a zitty mess when I am stressed out!!

6) when I am super stressed I just add more jobs to my "list" building a house....offering more and more services at my know, just little stuff.....hehe

7) shopping makes me feel good too....window shopping, internet shopping, really any kind of shopping

8) I have the BEST family..... moms, dads, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews and cousins in the whole wide world!(oh grandparents too)...:)

9) I have the BEST friends....ones I have known my whole life, ones I have known for a short time, ones I have met through work, through the adoption networks, bloggy friends keep me laughing, you keep me positive.....awesome!

10) and most husband.....I've said it before and I will say it ROCK!!

okay sorry but that is it.....everything is going well.....keep all fingers and toes crossed....

Monday, May 10, 2010

Mother's Day 2010...

Mother's Day 2010...I have to say the past few Mother's Day's have been hard to swallow....of course my "Mother's" are wonderful and I love to celebrate this day with them....but you can never avoid that nagging feeling all day.....the feeling that you still are not celebrating this day...and it is all around you....people wishing you a happy mother's day everytime you turn around...going to a 90th birthday celebration and all the "mothers" get a rose... and of course they should, just another situation where you feel left today I decided I needed to write a post to all the "non-mothers" out there...all the women in my life that want to be mothers more than anything...not so we can celebrate the day and get the, we just want to be a "Mom" have that joy......maybe we will, maybe we won't.....this post is for all of you!!

"To all the mom’s out there, you deserve love and respect today but respectfully, this is my blog and I want to use today’s entry to acknowledge my fellow fertility-challenged friends. So to them, I want to directly say the following:

1-You are brave and for that, you have my utmost respect.
2-Eat chocolate, ice cream, or have a margarita whenever you need one.
3-Don’t ever, not for one second, lose your sense of humor.
4-Don’t ever, not for one second, lose hope.
5-Don’t ever, not for one second, watch the show “19 and Counting” on TLC. It’ll just piss you off.
6-Never apologize or feel bad for day dreaming about punching someone in their face.
7-You’re not alone. There are countless out there like us.
8-If you want to be a mother, it may not happen in the way you imagined, but you will find a way to make it happen somehow.
9-I urge you to tell any of your friends or family who just gave birth all about the nap you took for no reason.
10-Don’t let this define who you are as a person or a woman.
11-Ignore the annoying people… even though there is JUST SO MANY OF THEM.
And lastly,
12- Never forget, we are not failures. We’ve done nothing wrong and we’ve done nothing to deserve this.

To all my non-mothers out there, from the bottom of my heart, I’m wishing you a happy May 9th. You are my people and I salute you.

Now let’s all go out, eat some sushi, drink some wine and a big cup of coffee, and then put on a bikini, get in a hot tub and enjoy the quiet and freedom! Happy Non-Mother’s Day!"

One day late.......but honestly yesterday this post would not have been this entertaining!


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Sunday, May 2, 2010


Sorry I have been MIA is busy, crazy, overwhelming, exciting, scary......lots to tell, but not just yet....

"But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, be patient! For it will surely take place. It will not be late by a single day."

Habakkuk 2:3

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Hope is putting faith to work when doubting would be easier. ~Author Unknown

Friday, April 16, 2010 kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle....

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Howdy Neighbour....

Last week, I was telling one of my clients that Terry and I had been thinking about moving....she of course looked surprised and said oh really...are you going to move to such and such a place....(a small town about 15 mins from here)........I replied very aggressively saying NO I would never move there...I went on and on about the reason we wanted to stay in the city...why I would never move to the town where I worked or the town in between here and there..........

Fast forward just 7 short days and guess what..........I am eating crow is funny really...this happens to me ALL the time.........I say things with so much passion and then I end up doing has happened many times.....I won't get in to any details but trust me it is laughable.........

So our friends were visiting on Sat night and M just happens to be the brainchild of this certain subdivision that we are now very interested in moving too....he bought the land, developed it and as luck would have it is now the realtor selling all the lots.......of course on Sat night we all started discussing our thoughts about moving and one thing led to another and low and behold we found ourselves in this small town Sunday afternoon.....getting the tour...the lay of the land...the potential homes that we could live in and the lots that we could buy.............

And that is were a funny story could end.........but this one gets even funnier..........there were always a few things that made this town desirable....I pushed them aside because I thought city life outweighed these things...but you be the judge, here they drive would be cut in half....10 mins would be added to Terry's drive though so that just cancels itself out....our friends live there and we spend a ton of time with them.....we would be closer to my friends and family.....and the biggest most recent development is that my brother and his girlfriend are going to be moving there too, so that would be kind of fun to live in the same town as there are definitely some pros to living there....but never did I think I would be living in

But as M was showing us the type of home we could build there for the $$$$ comparing that same home in the city.......well major major difference......and then we started thinking a bit more seriously....looking at the lots that were still we started to drive down a long packed street and I said now M which lot have my brother and Amanda picked out.........oh this one here....ok and which lots are still available.....well the one right next and the 2 lots 2 down from him.............hmmmm first I thought my gosh there is no way my brother and I are going to want to live beside each other...that would be too okay we will grab the one at the end of the street.......but oh hmmmm there are some things we really like about the lot right beside I quickly text my bro......"how would you like to live beside your sister".......and his reply "cool that would be great"....always the cute little brother...I asked him to really chat with his girlfriend about it and really talk about it and get back to me later........

As we started thinking about it more we realized, living 2 houses away or right beside is really not that different, if anything if we are right beside we will always know our neighbour....(the other side of us is a dead end) that would be it, farmland behind us, brother and I'm sure soon to be sister in-law***hehe....beside us....good friends a block away.....what could be better!!!

So this is what we are thinking..........nothing is set in stone yet but hopefully by weeks end we will have made a decision....and funny enough my brother and girlfiend are actually excited to be neighbours..crazy...... I can't even believe it.........too funny who knew that my brother and I would be living side by side in #U*A%!!!!!!!!


Monday, April 5, 2010

ParTY TimE!

I'm not sure if I have mentioned this before but my parents live is the most amazing is almost resort like.....and boy do I feel lucky to have parents that actually like having thier kids we hang out there often! Always welcome to stay for a long time or a short visit, bring friends and other family, eat and drink whatever we wish.....yes it really is the best........HOWEVER.........

I am telling you the more times I hang out with my parents the more concerned I am getting about my own sort of nonexistant...quiet...bordering on non existent social life!!!! lol

Here's the story, my parents have this ability to make friends wherever they happen to be.........and they are the ultimate host's.......always inviting people to their is the continuous drop off spot for many people....young, old, male, female, dog, cat, relative or neighbour, friend or foe ........their door seems to be always swinging...there are always people at my parents home!

Now they will disagree.....I can just see my Mom right now saying.....well it's not usually like that...we have many quiet nights.....or this is the first time in our lives that we have had so many people stopping many social engagements.....I don't know about this....because this social scene seems to be VERY very regular!!! lol

Take for instance the last 4 visits that I have paid my parents..........all different days of the week...all different situations and they all ended up with Michelle staying up way way too late and waking up way way too early......too much fun for their 30 something year old daughter........they are conditioned... my parents....yes just starting into their 6th decade, they are as spry as ever....the always incredible hosts, to an array of differing people.......drinks and food, great conversations...laughs and jokes...always ending in hugs and kisses and promises to be back soon.......and then don't be fooled, don't even think that there would be any lagging the next siree....up and at it at 4:30am my Dad is and might I mention not the quietest man in the world..... so in the end his light sleeping daughter is usually awake as well.......

So all and all these visits always end with fun had by all....but man I need to come back to our boring abode just to catch up on some zzzz's....and get ready for whatever the next visit may hold........or I guess I could look at it like this....if I continue to have lots of visits, just think.... I should be just up to snuff by the time I reach my 6th decade and I can carry on the party time traditions.........hmmmm not sure what "T" will think of that!!

Thursday, April 1, 2010

and then "mrs crabby pants" comes in.......

Well it sure is funny that when you are up someone is always there to bring you really, that sounded very dramatic.....however yesterday I had the most stressful client even on her best days she is stressful but yesterday she was in a bad mood and there was not one thing that I could do to cheer her up......

One of my co-workers always talks about the mirrored jacket that we have to put on every time we go out to "face" a stressful client.....the mirrors of course are for reflection....yes whenever they start being downers, or cranky complainers about really silly stuff....we have to let it bounce of us.....let the mirrors catch it and then it will reflect right back on them....and won't get into our head space.....because geez they can bring you down!

So yesterday during her long winded speech to me about her hair and how it was so fine and limp and the color just wasn't right and oh her wrinkles and she wants to look like Sandra Bullock and how her husband is grumpy and her son is being a rebel in school and oh I almost forgot how awful her 2 months in the Caribbean where this year and how she wrecked her prada purse.........pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaasssssssssseeeeeeeeee my opinion this women is clearly very unhappy.....on the outside it is easy to feel angry because to most of us her life looks pretty darn good.....but obviously there is something very sad inside of her because all the things she was talking about yesterday really are not that tragic....seriously she was driving me crazy everything was my or someone elses fault.....lady come on you are 55 and thanks to your worshiping of the sun for 50 of your years you do indeed I agree, have a bad case of wrinkles...I am never ever, let me repeat ever going to be able to make you look like Sandra my guest if you can find someone that can.....I will actually pay for that visit!!!

So as I took off my mirrored jacket after she left, I let out a deep sigh....almost a release of her attitude and carried on with my day........ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....I don't think I actually made much of a difference for her....but seriously I am not sure that anyone could.........hmmm I guess a challenge for her next visit.....funny thing is after all her complaining about how I possibly might not be doing things right....she has booked another appt........ahhh we will give it one more

m :)

Sunday, March 28, 2010

making a difference!

I had a client say to me this week...."Michelle, I am so glad that I met have really made a difference in my life!


After 17 years in this business, it still surprises me when a client says something like this to me, I tend to forget that sometimes my job has nothing to do with hair and the way people has way more to do with how people feel! I forget that sometimes, I am the only person some of my clients have....the only person they can bounce ideas off of, the only person that will cry with them when they have suffered a terrible lose....the only person that will listen to them without judgement...the only person that will cheer them on, laugh at their life with them...the only person that they have!

This comment has got me thinking, it has made me think about my journey, my life thus really is funny that when you take a step back and think about your life the stuff you remember at first is the stuff you would rather forget......yes I have made some pretty major mistakes...I guess we all have....however the lessons I have learned from these mistakes I would never give back...they have been invaluable......they have made me stronger and smarter.........they have helped shape my life.

This comment from my client though has started to make me think about what kind of difference can I make....I know I could definitely be doing more, we all could I suppose. When you take a step back and for once not have all your own little problems at the forefront of your mind and look at the big picture....what else could I be doing!

I love my job for this type of thing....everyday I am left astonished by the lives of others...some are such wonderful stories that sometimes seem unreal, like a fairytale...others though, are so painful and tragic....they certainly put everything into perspective when thinking about your own life! But when someone comes in and thanks me for what I have done for them, I just have to I doing the best I can for everyone!

Am I certain that I don't let my concerns and emotions cloud my day when talking to my clients....because that one day may be the day they really need me.....that one day that I am feeling down may be the one day they need me to be up and positive! I am so glad my client told me this for many just because any compliment makes you feel great and certainly boost's your spirits....but more importantly it reminded me that I need to remember my job has less to do with hair and makeup and more to do with the important stuff on the inside!!

I guess we all should take a step back every once in awhile and ask ourselves what are we doing for others....are we making a positive impact, at the end of our journey are we going to be happy with what we have accomplised....and not just by the things we have but by the difference we have made!


Tuesday, March 23, 2010


My Husband always tells me that my brain never turns off....he will often ask me "what are you thinking right now".......and I will always reply..."nothing really nothing"....and he will look at me and laugh saying "M you are always thinking about something"........and he is right, it seems like my brain is constantly in motion...a tidal wave of emotions and thoughts....very rarely isn't uncommon for me to wake up in the middle of the night and not get back to sleep because my brain has turned back on!

This whole brain thing can really be a problem sometimes for me........the thoughts that run through my head in a day is almost unbelievable....the scenario's, situations and hypothetical places I can have us heading is crazy!

This past week though for some reason has been much more intense than some.......I have been up and down....and round and around!! The different emotions that have raced through me, I can hardly even explain! I have gone from content, to confused.....hopeless to satisfied.....despondent to peaceful.....heavy hearted to joyous......jealous to name the emotion I have had it this week....

I'm not sure what is happening really, I feel a change! I can't really put my finger on it but I do feel that I am doing some real deep down soul searching and finding my way........I have said this before, what is meant to be will be and I know we will be okay with that outcome in the end.......who knows what all of this brain activity is, but something is feels different right now!
At the end of the day after everything has calmed down and I head to bed........the last thought that always flows through this over-zealous head is that faith will get us that the right thing will happen.....there will be forks in the road and we will choose and as long as we have each other we will be just fine........

m :)

Monday, March 15, 2010


About a month ago I decided to take a Facebook break.......yes it was a big step, in this big bad world of social networking! I will admit this is where most of my communication with the outside world was done...invitations, quick notes of greetings, birthday messages, appt. making for my business....but I was finding that this social network can also be the means of hurt and disappointment from time to time. This is why I needed a break!

T and I were having a wonderful relaxing Sunday afternoon, watching movies, discussing our upcoming trip with me and my laptop on my knees.......this is when the day took a turn for the really is uncanny how 5 little words can change your whole being, can take you from happy and content to absolutely miserable! It was at that moment I knew I had to get off this crazy train, of knowing every one's business! It was just too much!

The reality is, right now I am surrounded with people moving on with their lives.......having children, moving into homes where they will raise their families, all of my peers are in their mid to late 30's and that is what life is like for this age I realize T and I are not the only people out there in the land of limbo, but at that instant it felt like it. For some reason this outlet was making me compare myself with everyone else....and I am not normally like that. I am very content and happy with my life.... yeah we have some stuff that we are dealing with, who doesn't! However I am not usually one to do that "grass is always greener stuff", so this just had to stop!

I knew in that instant that it was not healthy for me to know every single detail of peoples lives.....lets face it 2 years ago pre FB I would never have known over 3/4 of this information. It is just not necessary and I was becoming a person I didn't not want to become....I was seriously seeing a vision of myself flash before me as that crazed women in a straight jacket and it was not a pretty site!!!

So I did it I "deactivated" my account.......whew, you won't believe what that feels like....all of a sudden your contact to what has become your link to the outside world has vanished! I literally walked around in a daze for the rest of that was so bizarre. I had become so used to "checking in" numerous times a day to see what everyone was up to! It is actually disturbing how this had become such a part of my life! So the "FaceBookless" days turned into a week and then 2 weeks and now a month and I have to tell you, life is good!!!
Seriously it is so is refreshing for me that I don't have to worry about "Sally and her runny nose"... "Cyndi and her sons math homework" and the fact that "Jim is on his way home from London"....(now these are obviously exaggerations but you know what I mean)....not that I was bothered by any of this stuff but it took up some valuable head space here....I feel like I can concentrate now on our more comparing....just doing our thing just like everyone else!

Now who knows as I write this maybe next week or next month or year, I will head back to FB. I am not saying that I won't ever be on that site again....there are definitely some things I miss.....the contact with my cousins and nieces...the contact with some very good friends.....the B-day reminders(that was a life line for me)....but for right now it is so nice to just be living my life, planning what we are going to do next without the added pressure of everyone else's "news"!!!

m :)

Monday, March 8, 2010

dog details!

Thanks for all the comments for my last post...I can see that I certainly did surprise some
Now for the not so positive anonymous comments...well geez thanks for those too I guess...I just wish you would let me know who you are and then I might be able to ask you some more questions about your opinions.....anywho....enough about that....I will get on to some dog details!!

So for anyone that has known me for even 5 mins(in real life, not bloggy land) will confirm that I am not entirely the biggest fan of animals....actually that isn't isn't that I don't like them it is just that I have a bit of a fear of them....cats are really really bad, like I wake up in the middle of the night sweating when I think of being in the same room with a mild anxiousness around dogs.....this always passes once I get used to a dog....I totally warm up to them and might even pet them after a few hours...............yes yes miss anonymous I can just see your face....not an ideal situation for someone contemplating a dog!

However for any of you that have known my husband for a mere 2 will know that he is the biggest animal lover on the face of this planet......and I am NOT kidding here....I often tease him that he has a special language that only he and animals doesn't matter where we go if there is a dog cat....bird...hamster they will immediately be at T's footsteps and he is so great with them all the attention they need and deserve!

Yes growing up T always had a dog in the house.........all his siblings have dogs and cats....and T is their favorite human on the planet I am sure of it! So you can imagine T's family and friends surprise when he brought this new girl home and had to warn them to hide all four legged animals before we arrived...........yes I can just imagine their jaws hitting the floor.....YOU are dating someone that doesn't like animals.......(and again it is not dislike it is fear) they obviously thought it was absurd and clearly wouldn't last.......T the animal lover, they had always imagined him with a dog by his side.........I believe one of T's friends even said those exact words to him...."are you sure she is scared of dogs"...........well I guess he was sure because not too many months later we were engaged and there was no puppy in sight!!

We definitely have chatted about pets before.....I have said that really I could see myself totally falling in love with a dog someday, a cat never.......unfortunately where we live at this point though doesn't allow pets, so this was something that we would talk about and then just say " well no need to worry about it right now because we can't at this point anyways"!!!

I have been thinking about it on and off ever since we bought the cottage....thinking how much T would love to have a dog and how when we are up there it would be such a great place for him or her........but then I would always come back to our place in the pets! So after our trip when we decided that it was time to keep on keepin on, I was driving home one night and thought....well there is absolutely no reason why we can't make a lateral move in the city to a better suited location to have a pet and after that get a dog to be part of our family!!

Honestly it was so awesome when I suggested this to T.........if you could have seen the look on his face.........seriously this guy loves dogs..........and I truly believe that I will far as all the details people have commented about, what about when we are at work etc....well luckily T can take the little puppy with him if need be, it has been done before when his brother got a lab a few years ago(I'm sure my MIL is dying right now).....and yes I get that dogs/puppies are a ton of work but I think it will be such a great addition..........and honestly I can't wait!

Yes this would be something very new and different for me, but for T this is really very normal....he is very experienced and informed about having a dog be part of you family......I must admit I do think that all along he was pretty sure he would convince me that this would be a great thing.....good job T!!!


Sunday, March 7, 2010

limbo land....see you later........

Wow I didn't realize how long it had been since I last posted!! It has been a great, but very very busy last few weeks!

We had a wonderful vacation....filled with lots of relaxing...too much food, some great chats and good old beach time!! We couldn't have asked for better weather and everything including our flights (minus not getting our luggage on our way home back for a few days) was perfect!! As I said we did a ton of "regrouping" while we were away!!

It is funny how even though you see each other sometimes need time away from everything to be able to sort life really have the time to talk without any interruptions....and that is what we did! I suppose T might say "wow that was alot of talking" lol

So here is what we came up is time to put adoption on the back burner...........I'm exhausted....which makes T exhausted........I'm so tired of this consuming my every thought and move........I really can't do it anymore.....I have come to the conclusion that I need to move on.....this doesn't mean that we are giving up....not at all, our profiles are still with our different agencies and if something is meant to be it will be so awesome, but I am going to take a step back.........I need to get my life back...not be so vocal about everything...I just can't let it consume me anymore......
This life of limbo has to that is what we are going to do.....move ahead with our life....I have plans for my business, we would like to move within this year.....and I think we are going to get a new addition to our little family........a I can see about 8 faces just about dying of I am going to end this post right now just so I can hear all these predictable.....absolutely hilarious comments......tomorrow I will be back with some more details!!!!! lol lol

later folks.....
m :)

Wednesday, February 24, 2010


What is it about holidays that make you contemplate things that you just don't let yourself any other time of the year!!

Yes "T" and I are on holidays, we are having a wonderful time on the beautiful island of St Maarten...........we are SO SO SO lucky, my parents have a timeshare there and because they are having a trip of a lifetime in South Africa "T" and I have been lucky enough to use their place! It truly is heaven.........we are having a wonderful time!!

I have been thinking though how funny it is that conversations that you may put on the back burner always come up on holidays..............we have discussed it all.....put it all on the line and made some pretty heavy decisions...........I feel better.......ready to head back and move on....the best part is, something that I knew before I came here...whatever happens I have the best husband EVER!!!

m :)

Monday, February 15, 2010

V-DAY special!

This year I decided (for once) to try and get into the Valentine's Day spirit.....I am not really into is something that I always find kind of sappy....when I think about it though I think I thought that because I never had someone in my life that I really wanted to be sappy with....until of course I met "T".....

Now "T" seems way more into V-day than me.....the last few years he would get annoyed with me because I would usually have to work late on the day or I had forgot it was V-day and planned something else...I don't know what hit me maybe it was all the sparkly red hearts hanging from the shop windows....or all the V-day hype on TV had finally gotten to me, or had I become exactly what Hall*mark wanted, a V-day believer...supporter...yes I will go into that card store and spend 6 bucks on a crazy card for my Valentine...........whatever it was it happened to me!!

I got this brainwave on Thursday morning........I know a bit last minute, but whatever I got the itch......I was going to do something special for "T".......instead of him always doing the V-day dinner for I started with my plan..........I quickly fired off an email to my invitation to join me at 6pm on Sat night at our house...........he was not allowed to be there any perfect "T" fashion he replied with a wisecrack response........"is this for real, is this really my wife.....if it is, I will be there for sure"!!! haha "T"......yes I know this is unexpected and out of the ordinary but give girl a break.....I'm making an effort here! then the real planning began!!

I started scouring the internet for some of "T's" favorite I love to cook but I HATE to bake.......what is T's favorite thing.... I knew that was going to have to be my focus........I finally decided on dark chocolate molten lave cakes.......easy but pack a lot of punch I was pretty confident that he would love that...........and then the rest of the meal just fell into place.....

I worked until 4pm on Sat afternoon so I didn't have a ton of time to get all of this going, but with some organizing I pulled it off.....Terry arrived home around 6:20 which was such a blessing to have that extra time...we started with some wine, his favorite cheese, roasted garlic and crackers...then moved on to tenderloins with a chili/blue cheese crust, a spicy sweet pepper ratatouille......and roasted sweet potatoes........and of course the lava cakes topped with raspberries and icing sugar for dessert........ahhhh it was a success and really so much fun!!!

I don't know if it is the fact that there is more hype surrounding all of these "hallmark holidays" or what, but I am glad I got into the spirit this year.....tons of fun with my Valentine!!!!! lol

Sunday, February 7, 2010


So now that the traffic has died down a bit on here, I feel compelled to address what happened on this blog last week. "Blogging" is such an interesting many stories to be many opinions to be heard. My first reaction last week when I started receiving such negative comments about my post was to forget this whole blogging thing and move on........after I calmed down and started really thinking about it I realized that no that was not what I wanted to do at all.

I learn so much from everyone's different opinions in the blogging world, I don't want to give that up. Even from the most negative hurtful comments there are lessons to be learned.

I have a very open mind..........I want to learn all I can about adoption...I feel that there are millions of stories to be told.........some positive, some negative.......and yes I want to hear them. This is why I have searched out couples that have fostered, adopted domestically, adopted adoptees.....I have searched for these people and asked them about their stories........I want to hear it all......if we are ever lucky enough to become an adoptive family I want to be raise a child the best way we can.........

There are a few things I want to specifically address from last weeks post and comments......first off.......last Friday Jan 19th I was having a very hard day.....a very hard couple of weeks....things I talked about in that post were my raw emotions from that time.....I was feeling angry....I was feeling sad and discouraged.......yes that is exactly how I was feeling that day.....I'm entitled, just like everyone else is entitled to their come on to my blog and judge my whole personality from that one post is just call me a selfish bitch, entitled cow, stupid idiot.....well I think that is just plain immature.........never in my life have I searched out blogs of differing opinions and thrown out crazy insults when trying to get someone to see my side of the story.....never!!! If anytime in the future you would like my attention....which by the way I welcome....please do in a bit more mature manner........believe me I will take the things you are saying to me a bit more seriously!

I received a few comments...some very harsh and negative asking me why we were waiting for a domestic adoption.....that there are so many children out there that need a home and why were we being so selfish waiting for that perfect baby........believe me this is something we struggle with everyday....I see the need in our country, in my own town........I see it loud and clear.......but when I dig deep in my heart I am not sure that I would be the best mother for these this point in my life I just don't know......I suppose it stems from the fact that I, just like most women want to raise a child from infancy.......I want to share in all those moments that come with bringing a baby home and raising them together. I suppose to some this sounds very selfish........I can't tell anyone what is going to happen in our future........there may come a time that bringing an older child or a child with special needs into our home, building a family with them will seem absolutely right to us.........I don't know.........but right now it does not........I won't apologize for this.....I know many people will have opinions about me whatever you want but I will not get into a situation where I don't think I would be doing the best thing for a, toddler, teen...any age....not ever.

I suppose I could go on and on about last weeks comments.......there were so many, I did learn a great deal from some and some just seemed like a few very angry people trying to bully others into thinking the way they do.........I think I am going to end this with a quote that a fellow blogger gave me........."opinions are like assholes, EVERYONE has one".....and I guess that is the great thing about this thing we call life, we are all different....we are all going to have different experiences in life that make us who we are....lets just live and let live!

I have now enabled the comment really if you are planning on bashing me don't bother I won't publish anything that is disrespectful or hurtful.....if however you would like to give me your opinions so I can grow and learn from them please do.


Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Eating Clean.....

So "T" and I are just finishing up our 12 day super clean eating detox....yes our prep for our holiday coming up. We have done this before and have always felt SO much better after.....this time though I really wanted to find some new recipes that would make the 12 days a bit more exciting......and boy did I find some good good that I will be making these recipes for a lot longer than 12 days....

I love this women!!!!

Thanks to my Aunt who recommended a wonderful roasted garlic and sweet potato soup recipe from one of Tosca's books.....she got me on the Tosca train...I raced out to our local book store and stocked up! I have spent hours scouring these books....besides the great recipes, the books have really awesome information about health, fitness and clean eating! I have already made 4 or 5 recipes and they are all so good and healthy....I have made many "clean" recipes in my day and believe me not any have tasted this good!!!

If any of you are still on a New Year's get fit kick...........go out and get one of Tosca's will not be disappointed!!

m :)

Friday, January 22, 2010

I wonder?

I wonder, I wonder if anyone thinks before they speak these days??? No really I know that sometimes things slip out and you immediately know....opps shouldn't have said that and try to back pedal like crazy...shit happens......but I really wonder if people ever think about how another person will feel after they bring up a certain subject or chat about a particular thing.........I know that my parents were forever saying "Michelle think before you speak"....that was huge in our came a close second to " Michelle sit up straight put your shoulders back" though I was taught at a very young age to really think before I said I will admit that sometimes my tongue gets the best of me and I say something that I maybe shouldn't have......but really didn't anyone else hear this growing up....doesn't anyone think about how they can really hurt someone with their words??????

I promised myself on Jan 1st that this blog was no longer going to be about Michelle and Terry's sad days........I wasn't going to look back on this and have to read about all the sadness all the time...I want to look back at this blog and be proud of me........whatever ends up happening I want to see that I handled this part of my life with grace and courage......I am going to try to be positive and be thankful and have faith.......
So because of that, I am not going to tell you what was said to me today that hurt me to the core......I am not going to think about it for one more minute...I am going to pray for this person and hope that someday she will know that hurting someone else is not going to help her not one bit....... thankfully from the help of my parents, family and husband's support over the years, even when someone tries to knock me down, I can put things into perspective and can see that this person right along with me is hurting and is now even after this I will now try to help her.......

Sunday, January 17, 2010

help us help haiti!!!

Saturday was an amazing day at work....truly amazing!

Thursday night was the first night that I had sat down and watched some o the CNN coverage on Haiti......I was distraught......I just couldn't believe what I was seeing. My heart was breaking. These people and was just devastating what was happening. I was thinking to myself here I am listening to a woman's cry for help as she lay squashed between the ground and a huge boulder of concrete as my husband and I were discussing our weekend activities.....sick it was just sick......I had to do something!!!

As I sat and thought about it, I of course thought well tomorrow I will get online and make a donation.........but for some reason as I laid in bed that night...a small donation just didn't seem like I tossed and turned with visions of all the small children I had seen on the screen that night when it finally came to me.........I was going to do something at work...........I decided I was going to donate my sales from Sat to relief efforts in Haiti!!!

I asked T what he thought of the idea first thing and of course he was on board thinking of different things I could do to get more people it was decided.....I called our local radio station and they did a short interview...I sent out emails and facebook announcements....Sat morning I made posters, got balloons and timbits...........and we were off!!!

What can I say........the clients at the salon are AMAZING GENEROUS.......ahhh it was so great.......everyone chipped in, people were coming in off the street buying products, getting their hair trimmed....all because the sales were going to be was just so great to watch and be a part of.....the best part was, we were able to raise a little over $1500 to give to Haitian Relief!!!

If we can help even a few giving them the simplest water, shelter ever as simple as bandages.......that would be so great.........

m :)

Monday, January 11, 2010

This is what my 2010 is going to look like!!!

after a year filled with ups and downs...challenges and accomplishments....I have learned more about myself....I have finally realized that that is what this life is all about....learning and growing, becoming a better person everyday!

this year, I am going to try to work on the things that I have learned.....

This year I am going to....

Slow down. Think less, Have fun. Breathe. Hug. Sing. Dance. Laugh. Smile. Listen. Call. Write. Play. Provide. Just Be. Kiss. Visit. Walk. Let Go. Pray. Learn. Read. Snuggle. Accept. Have FAITH. Give. Believe. Offer. and just LIVE. (thanks yaya for this inspiration)

What is your 2010 going to look like?

Thursday, January 7, 2010

knowing your limits....

Yesterday we received an email from our agency with the subject line...."potential scenario"....well you can imagine the feeling in my heart, it leapt....with excitement and fear and anxiety, what will this be!

As I opened the email and read the black type, I was cautiously excited....surely not really taking in the text.....I read it and reread and started to digest it......some items about this women seemed a bit scary but truthfully I was very oblivious to what these words even meant. I quickly called T and he looked the the email over........knowing he would be a much better judge much more cautious, I waited for his response.......was this something that we could entertain.

We collectively decided right then that we would respond by saying we were interested but needed a lot more information......we sat and discussed all night, me with my laptop in my hands searching out every bit of information......still at 11pm there was no response so I headed to bed....with many different thoughts rolling around in my head.
Very early morning I awoke and searched out my blackberry and saw that ever so famous red blinking light.....again my stomach did a flip flop with anticipation...........and it was another email...a much more detailed email about all the different scenarios that this little life would be facing upon entering the heart was saying wow could we handle this, would it be too much.....but naively I still did not anticipate the extent of all the issues that were staring right at me.........

As the sun came up I waited for T to stir so I could chat with him about this most recent email, again realizing that he would be a much better judge........we decided our best bet was to call on some aunt who is a nurse practitioner and of course our adoption practitioner.......after a very long grueling day of phone calls, emails and reading tons of information........T and I decided to pull ourselves from this "pool" of couples that would be profiled in the next few days......

At the beginning of this 2 day journey I felt some anger thinking how could you do this to your baby, this poor little being....that's life now is in such jeopardy.....but now I just feel such sadness for those two people, this birth mother that is so very troubled and this little person that will enter this world in the next few one knowing what the outcome might be.....

I pray that our agency can find a couple that has the strength and courage to take these two people into their care.....I hope they get the chance to love this baby and help it through its inevitable struggles throughout the coming years........I pray this women can get some help, some love and strength to pull herself out of the trenches if that is what she desires......

I will think of these two often I am sure.......they have tugged at my heart strings....


Monday, January 4, 2010


okay so you must have known, it wouldn't be long until I had another obsession........another craft to fill my time...the stampin and scrappin is so yesterday....for now that is..I really think that is something I will do a ton of if we have a little one in our lives, but for now I need to put it to know you can only scrap T and I so often......:)

For the last little bit I have been thinking about something new to get into......I need to keep my hands and mind busy when they are not at work.......not an easy task for me.......I know most would say....geez take a break have a nap watch some TV, but I NEED something to do with my hands at all times it seems.........and lately that has been surfing..........and not the waves......the internet and really all if does is depress goodbye laptop........HELLO BEADS, and stones and sterling silver!!

That's right thanks to a friend who I was out with on New Years Eve...I have started to make some jewellery....and I love fun and there are so many pretty things to buy...yes my favorite part of every craft....the shopping........

So here is a peek at my first creations.......and I am making more as I type......:)


Saturday, January 2, 2010

twenty ten...

twenty ten.......well here we go!

I actually like the sound of that, it has a certain ring to it doesn't it............I am excited to see what this year has in store for all of us!

Let's get this year started!!!


Friday, January 1, 2010

ThE BesT aND ThE WorST oF 2009.....

So here we are some highlights and maybe even some "lowlights" from 2009....for some reason my photo ops where a bit lacking this year....hmmm maybe new years resolution #1 take more pics.....

#1.....the cutest set of Canada Day twins...

#2 the best Valentines Day photo op EvER.......

#3.....the most hideous close up....yikes........

#4...adoption profile photo ops...thanks Lynne....... looking Mom........Christmas 2009......

#6 cute couple on the best weekend of the summer....."MooRE WeeKeNd at THe CottAge LabOUr DaY 2009

#7 Sushi Night with Dad....very very humorous to watch.....

#8 best place to have a nap.....

#9 worst facial expression has to go to "T" this

#10 absolutely the cutest baby you have ever seen........

#11 funniest their spirit....."Family Day 2009"

#12 best way to get through the adoption blues......RenOVate........Cottage Reno Bayfield ONT!

#13 the best really really bored, sick and tired look......
#14 pretty good looking mother and son......
Well there you have it 2009 summed up in 14 I said I have missed some things, I will try harder next year!!
Here's to 2009 it's been a good year.....hello 2010 can't wait to see what you have in store for us!!!