Wednesday, June 10, 2009

......?!?!

Do you ever just have to take a step back, take a deep breath and contemplate what the hell just happened?? Well that has been my whole week.....every time I think things are going to calm down and just be normal, the next absolutely ridiculous thing happens!!

It has been various things really.....a few things at work, which to be honest is normal....someone is always going to call on Tues morning with an ailment...where they catch this stuff I will never know....clients are always going to want me to do them favours, people are always going to lose diamond earrings down the sink.........grade 8 girls mothers are ALWAYS going to drive me over the edge on grad day.......this stuff is normal.......well kind of....but I deal with it.........this week it has been the extra stuff, the few other events that have made me sit back and shake my head in wonder..........what the hell????


I know that we all say things without thinking, it has happened to each and every one of us...me included...I have had to pry my foot out of my mouth many many times....and have felt awful about it....apologized over and over........so I know how bad I feel after something like this happens...does anyone else??? I ask this questions because I have had a few things said to me this week that have been almost unbearable.....yes all adoption/baby related....I am not going to go on and on about each thing here but I will give you a brief description of my week.....


scenario 1- I decided on a whim to run into the children's shop right beside my salon...they just have the cutest things........I wanted to buy a little something for my girlfriends babe...a sophie to be exact(such a great thing for newborns)...I couldn't wait....I was very excited that I was going to be able to introduce this toy to C and J.....so in I walk and I start to look around....yes I am sure I looked like I didn't know where or what I was looking for....to be quite frank I don't go into baby stores that much.....but really I don't think that I needed someone to say to me....."M what are doing in here, you don't have a baby, what would you need in here".....WTH????????? Well thank you for pointing out the obvious you dumb women who by the way is a client and knows my whole story every single detail....how dare she say something so hurtful seriously.....come on......
Now one of two things probably happened after she let that comment fly out of her mouth.....she either felt terrible and embarrassed about what she had said...and if that is the case well I am glad she should, hopefully this will be a lesson to her.........but the other thing that could have happened is she didn't even give it a second thought and went on about her day....basking in the excitement of all the wonderful little gifts and outfits she had just bought for her 4 grandchildren....ahhh I wonder if she even realizes how lucky she is???

So that has been my week so far......I always think it is so amusing how some weeks you just feel bombarded with this type of stuff....and others weeks not one thing is mentioned to you....funny really.....I suppose some reading this will be thinking that I am just being over sensitive and well maybe you are right.....but I guess I am allowed.....just like everyone else....I can't be smiley, happy go lucky nothing bothers me, all the time!

So really for anyone reading this........lets make a pact lets try to remember that golden rule our parents taught so long ago.....think before you speak....I know it is a hard one for me too....but man after all the comments this week I am going to try extra hard......the thought of hurting someone like peoples comments have hurt me this week almost makes me sick to my stomach!!

m :)

8 comments:

Allie said...

Wow. That's mind-blowingly rude. "you don't have a baby, what would you need in here....." Yikes! I want to give her the benefit of the doubt and say that she wasn't being malicious, but still...

Why does your client know every single detail? Just curious.

michelle said...

hey Allie....well that is just me, I am very open with my clients...we are friends....they share details and I share details...I have been in this business for 17 years...and have known some of these women for that long....this paticular lady I have known my whole life....so she really does know the "story"!!

:)

Sally's World said...

wow, some people just say the most hurtful things, it would have taken a split second to think it through first... besides, it isn't something you'd say unless it was meant to hurt, not in your situation...and besides, when was a law passed that said you have to have a baby to shop for baby clothes....i shop for all my new nieces/nephews/godchildren all the time.

i hope you can just let it go, and remove yourself from her...

hope your weekend is better than your week

take care

sal xxx

RB said...

Don't you just wish that sometimes you could say, "SHUT UP!"

the "mom" said...

damm.... what can I say...
sorry kiddo.
we are here for you!!
cj

Erica said...

I've realized that 99% of people don't think before they speak, despite the fact that we are supposed to be taught that at a very young age. I feel ya....seems like the last week all I have seen EVERYWHERE is mommy's with their sweet little babies out enjoying the gorgeous summer weather. Makes me wish I had one. :(

Erica

Erica said...

Hey Michelle,

It's Erica-your blog buddy from Our Baby Wish. I wanted to see if I could get your opinion/help on something...but it's way to long for a comment. Could you shoot me an email (bogeyanderica@yahoo.com)?

Thanks!
Erica

Anonymous said...

Hi,
Thanks for your recent comment on my blog. I see you and I live in similar worlds. I just wanted to say you are not alone in the "recipient of stupid comments" department. It's a daily occurrance for me, too.
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